Does any adult past the age of thirty-five remember not having arguments with your parents? It has always seemed like a rite of passage . . . feeling like you are being treated like a child, feeling like you want to leave home, feeling like you can’t do all the things you want to do. Somehow, it goes with the territory.
But, here’s the thing. If you’re old enough to leave home, then you’re old enough to make your own rules in your own apartment, and support yourself financially in all areas of your life, including your education.
An eighteen-year-old girl left home, of her own volition, this past October 30th, two days before she turned eighteen, and is now trying to hit her parents up for $650.00 a week child support. That’s $2,600.00 a month! She is also trying to extort more money for attorneys fees and the remaining school fees.
If a child leaves home voluntarily, and is no longer a minor, then she has to accept the responsibilities of an adult. She should not be entitled to hold her parents hostage for school fees or living expenses, as if she was still living at home. And her parents should not have to pay legal fees so that their daughter can sue them.
Her parents didn’t kick her out of the house; in fact they want her to come back and live with them. But they also want her to abide by their rules which include “being respectful, keeping a curfew, doing a few chores and ending a relationship with a boyfriend her parents say is a bad influence. They say that shortly before she turned 18, she told her parents that she would be an adult and could do whatever she wanted.”
I’m hopeful that the judge sees it for what it is: extortion and an attitude of entitlement. As a minor, she is entitled to the basic food, shelter, and clothing. She is not entitled to go to a private school, as this lawsuit is claiming. She is not entitled to separate living arrangements. She is not entitled to $2,600.00 a month living expenses.
As an adult who prefers to make her own way and not abide by her parent’s rules, she should not be entitled to anything from her parents. If she wants to be considered an adult, now is the time for her to act like an adult.