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The Starter Wife

A number of years ago, I heard the term “starter wife.” The definition was “The woman you meet and marry while at university or in training who helps put you through school, has your children, and runs your home and contributes financially while your career is being established, and then when you have made it career-wise, you ditch her for a younger, fresher version who coos over you and worships you.” While the terminology was newer, the concept certainly wasn’t. …

The most admirable people I’ve ever met aren’t the ones who run into burning buildings to save someone, or who fly halfway around the world to help out in a natural disaster, or who donate millions of dollars to feed the homeless, or even those who discover a cure for a deadly disease. No, the most admirable people I’ve ever met are those who don’t blame others for their failures or who admit their culpability when they have made a …

Last night I got an email from Amazon asking me to answer a question from one of their customers about my experience with a previous order of dental floss. When I looked at their email, my first thought was dental floss is dental floss and I wondered what I could possibly tell their customer about dental floss that he didn’t already know. It turns out that he was questioning their price of $47.00 for a pack of one. It didn’t …

This is definitely a case of different strokes for different folks but many people love the comfort of repetition whereas I get bored with it. Did you ever notice that when you’re reading to a child from his favorite book, he can tell you what the next word is or what picture is supposed to be on that page? And heaven help you if you try to skip some of it to make it shorter, most kids won’t let you …

We’ve all heard stories about mothers telling their daughters that it’s just as easy to fall in love with a rich man as a poor man and that money lasts longer than love. And then came the Feminist Movement and, for the last sixty years, women have been learning to support themselves and not depend on men to take care of their financial needs. But, now things are changing again. Whereas over the last half a century, women had been …

I was watching a news clip where four newscasters were discussing the new anatomically correct baby boy doll that just went on the market. The newscasters were three men and one women and one of the men mentioned that the baby boy doll had a penis. The female newscaster was mortified and told them not to discuss it. She said that in her family nothing important was ever discussed and that we shouldn’t talk about things like that; she said …

When the early voting locations opened on Monday, I hurried over there. It was a beautiful, sunshiny day and I was going to do my civic duty, something that I’ve always considered a privilege, not a right. I’ve never missed voting in a primary or a general election but, this year, I could have easily given it a miss. Our present governor is a known crook whose company defrauded Medicare and had to reimburse the federal government over $600 million …

Most people who file lawsuits do so for vengeance, justice, anger, retribution, or money. However, there are some people who go into court for a completely different reason; these are the people pleasers who are trying to learn how to stand up for themselves. It may not sound like a good reason to sue someone but, for people who have spent a lifetime trying to please everyone and avoiding conflict at all costs, it’s the very best reason to go …

Have you ever felt like you were doing too much and getting too little in return? What does it take to start a relationship and what does it take to sustain it? When you move to a new city or state, if you want to find people to hang out with who might, someday, become your friends, you will probably be the one who has to make all the moves because everyone else has a social life and/or family to …

We hear so many opinions about why the foundation of the family is disintegrating, that I think I’ll add mine to the mix. When I was growing up, dinner was a sacred time. I don’t mean sacred in a religious context, but sacred as in everyone came to the table when dinner was served, and dinner wasn’t served until everyone was seated. No excuses. Sacred as in no one was allowed to talk on the telephone during dinner and no …

Connie H. Deutsch

Archive for October, 2014

The Starter Wife

The Blame Game

It’s Not Gold; It’s Dental Floss

The Comfort of Repetition

Marrying for Money

It Won’t Go Away

Early Voting

Lawsuits for People Pleasers

The Dinner Hour

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