It’s been sixteen years since the Monica Lewinsky-Bill Clinton scandal rocked the world, ruthlessly driven by the Internet. At the time, I don’t think anyone was looking at Monica as a person, probably a very frightened person; they were looking at her as a home wrecker and career wrecker of the most powerful man in the world.
As we have seen in recent years, there are now websites set up just for the purpose of married men and women who are looking to have an affair. But, in those days, these sites had not yet made an appearance, even though married men and women were still finding other ways to cheat on their spouses.
It has always been a double standard with men taking as little blame as possible and the women being ostracized and labeled an adulterer. “The woman must have led him on, tempted him beyond reason, otherwise he would never have broken his marriage vows.” And some of the people who spouted such nonsense were the very ones who were having their own affairs.
Of course, the main difference between those people and Monica Lewinsky, is that they didn’t make the nightly news every night for years on end, as the woman who gave the president blow jobs. And even after all these years, Clinton’s popularity still remains intact as one of the most influential people in the world, whereas Monica’s name still evokes snickers and she is still recognized wherever she goes.
It might have gone better for her if Clinton hadn’t kept saying, “I did not have sexual relations with that woman, Miss Lewinsky.” And we always give the man the benefit of the doubt while holding the woman accountable, as if she held a gun to his head and forced him to allow her to give him blow jobs.
Lewinsky doesn’t ask to be pitied and she doesn’t want to be characterized as a victim. She says she was just a White House intern who made the mistake of falling in love with her boss.