In this day and age when you have telephones, emails, and text messages to avoid difficult conversations, it’s more than cowardly to fake your own death to avoid getting married; it’s downright cruel.
The groom-to-be met his fiancée two years ago while she was studying abroad in the U.S. When she began making plans to return to England, he proposed and, during their daily calls, they began making plans to spend the rest of their lives together.
He wanted to be involved in the planning of their dream wedding so he said he booked the venue and they would be getting married on the campus where they met. She was ecstatic and couldn’t think of a more romantic place to tie the knot.
Then, one week before he was supposed to be in England, she picked up her phone and heard a man’s voice saying he was the father of her fiancé and that his son had been deeply depressed and wanted to die so he had thrown himself in front of a car. He said that they had been trying to send him for psychiatric care but it was too late.
She was devastated and, when she calmed down, she called his parents back to offer her condolences but they didn’t know what she was talking about. They told her that their son was alive and well and he had told them that the two of them had broken up when she left the United States.
He later admitted that he had faked his own death because he was scared saying, “I’m a terrible, awful person. I know I shouldn’t have told her I was dead, but I didn’t know what else to do.”
His fiancée has the right of it. She called him a liar and a coward, saying that he had put on a different voice on the phone and pretended to be his grieving father. She said, “What sort of sick person does that to his fiancée of two years? It’s sickening.”
In pretending to be his father and telling his fiancée that they had tried to get him to go for psychiatric care, he was probably telling her the only truth of their relationship . . . that he does, indeed, need psychiatric care.
I hope he gets professional help soon; he needs it desperately.