When I first heard the words, “fake it till you make it,” I was cynical. I couldn’t imagine anything that started with the premise of deception, having a positive impact. But, here it is, years later, and I’m ready to concede my error.
Integrity has always played a big part in my life; I’m a “take me or leave me” kind of person, so don’t expect me to change who I am in order to please you or to make you feel more comfortable with me. And that’s why this “fake it till you make it” philosophy left me with a bad taste.
But, here it is, decades later, and I have to admit that I have used this philosophy to get my clients to change destructive patterns of behavior. I have always acknowledged that changes come about by evolution, not revolution. If you want someone to change something that is causing him tremendous unhappiness, it’s unrealistic to expect him to make those changes in the blink of an eye.
First comes the awareness of the problem, then comes the desire, motivation, commitment and determination to change, and then comes the many attempts to change. Don’t expect those changes to occur immediately. And, after many times of getting it right, you can still slip back occasionally until it becomes permanent. But, if you can keep in mind that you are human, and apt to mess up from time to time, you’ll eventually reach your objective.
And, that’s where the “fake it till you make it” philosophy comes in. While you are messing up again and again, if you keep your goal in mind and see yourself as having already achieved it, little by little your determination and hard work will pay off and you will be living the life you want.
Some people might say it sounds like self-hypnosis or self-fulfilling prophesy, and it might be a little of each but I’d like to think it’s a combination of visualization, determination, keeping your eye on the goal, and hard work, and not stopping until you succeed.
To my way of thinking, it’s a win-win situation and it has success written all over it.