I may not be the smartest person on the planet, but I’m not the dumbest, either . . . EXCEPT . . . when I make dumb decisions. It’s at those times that I question my intelligence.
We all make mistakes. That’s a given. So why do we think that we have to make great decisions every single time? It’s not even realistic because, as humans, we’re not perfect and, therefore, we will make mistakes. Not just from time to time, but many, many times. And sometimes we’re not even smart enough to remember that we’ve made a particular mistake before, and we make the same mistake a second or third time.
There is a saying, “Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me.” I’d hate to tell you how many times we fool ourselves or allow the same person to fool us again, or even the same set of circumstances to fool us repeatedly.
Think about all the times you want someone or something so badly that you ignore all the red flags. It’s as if, for a brief period of time, we take leave of our mind and do something incredibly stupid. I think it’s more than being in a state of denial; it’s just that we don’t want to see the evidence that’s going to stop us from getting what we want.
And, of course, if we hadn’t deliberately put on blinders for that small window of craziness, we would have made better decisions. But, that’s in the clear light of day when the emotional moment has passed and we can look at it logically.
Even when you live by your intuition and you know that if you follow your intuition, you’ll never make a bad decision, those pesky emotions, those “wants,” “must haves,” and “it can’t hurt if I do’s,” etc., will lead you astray and you’ll be sorry that you didn’t follow your hunch.
And, for whatever reason, we bypass our intuition and we regret not listening to it, we have to accept that we’ll probably do the same thing at a later date. It may be a different set of particulars, but we’ll make the same mistakes again and again. We’re not perfect and we have to accept the fact that as long as we are in human form, we are not infallible and, no matter how smart we are, we’re bound to make stupid mistakes.