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I Love You, Love You, Love You

When you’re in a new relationship, or in a relationship that hasn’t had time to mature, the three hardest words to say to your partner is often, “I love you.” Most people don’t like putting themselves on the line. They want to wait until their partner says those words first. And if they do gather up the courage to say those words first, they want to hear them in return right after that. There’s nothing quite like holding your breath …

Rebound Relationships

I used to tell clients not to rush into a new relationship immediately after ending an old relationship. My thoughts were that people need time to heal and to figure out what went wrong. I’ve always thought that it takes time to understand the dynamics of the one you’ve just left so that you don’t make the same mistakes the next time. Over the years, I have seen the positive and negative effects of rebound relationships and they are heavily …

Loneliness and Sex

One of my earliest recollections of loneliness is of a classmate who had gotten married right out of high school. He was in the Army and was stationed in another part of the country. Like the rest of us, she had no idea what her expectations of marriage should be. I remember the misery that poured out of her first letter to me. She was still in the early stages of romantic love and she spoke longingly of the days …

Pushing the Relationship Button

Anyone who has ever been in a relationship knows that there comes a time when you have to make a clear decision, whether to stay or to leave. And having that “talk” will probably be the deciding factor. With rare exceptions, one person is usually more committed to the relationship than the other person, and that’s what makes having the discussion so scary. If you are in your teens or twenties, you don’t feel the pressure of defining your relationship, …

Rushing Into Relationships

Men and women enter the dating scene so differently. Men seem to want to nail down a relationship very quickly. He pursues the woman relentlessly, and then, when he is sure that she’s hooked, he withdraws. She might hear him say things like, “We need to take a break . . . We’re going too fast . . . I need space . . . We need to date other people for a while,” etc. And with words like that, …

The End of the Engagement Ring

As blasé as we have become about so much of our lives, one thing seemed to remain unchanged and that is the excitement of getting engaged and receiving a diamond engagement ring as evidence of your boyfriend’s love for you. In 1949, Carol Channing introduced the song, Diamonds Are a Girl’s Best Friend, in the Broadway production of Gentlemen Prefer Blondes, and four years later, in 1953, Marilyn Monroe immortalized the song in the movie version of the story. From …

Marrying for Love May Be Overrated

I have always been a strong advocate of marrying for love. I didn’t think there was anything that could replace that heady feeling. that feeling of walking on air, that breathless feeling you get when you hear your lover’s voice. But. I’m starting to wonder if I’ve been living in a fool’s paradise. With the enormous divorce rate and the extremely high rate of infidelity among married couples, the thing that rattles around in my mind is that there are …

Women Romanceaholics: Nature or Nurture?

Even in today’s society, the supposedly modern generation where women are doing men’s jobs, I still hear women call their little daughters beautiful and princess. I’m still seeing boys get action toys and girls get Barbie dolls. And then we wonder why boys have math and science skills and girls have language skills. When a boy gets a jigsaw puzzle or any other kind of puzzle, he’s expected to work it out by himself. When a girl gets the same …

Connie H. Deutsch