Tag Archives: fight

Nothing is Hopeless

Nothing is hopeless. No matter how often people or circumstances try to crush the human spirit, with the least little bit of hope it springs back to life. We see this trait in revolutionaries. No matter how tired they are and how hopeless their cause seems to be, when they see the smallest glimmer of hope, they reach inside of themselves for that extra burst of energy and that extra ounce of determination and continue fighting. We have seen people …

Avoiding Marital Problems

There are so many issues that factor into why the divorce rate is so high and I can agree with most of them. We hear about people growing apart, different goals, different expectations, different communication styles, financial problems, changes in personality, and the list is endless. But the one thing I don’t see is something more basic as to be overlooked, and that is boredom. It takes me two years of seeing the best and the worst of a person’s …

What People Really Think of You

In the business world, if you want to find out what people think of you, it’s usually done in the form of performance evaluations by your supervisor. These scheduled evaluations usually center on your work, although it often focuses on your attitude. If you are being evaluated by someone who doesn’t like you or is envious of you, these evaluations are useless, but if they’re done by people who like you and who use them to help you and the …

The Fountain of Youth

So many times in a person’s life, we think if we had it to do over again, we would have done it differently. But, would we have? Dr. Heideggar’s Experiment, a short story by Nathaniel Hawthorne, explores the premise that, given the opportunity to roll back the years and become better humans, we would not do so. As we were in our youth, we would revert to type and repeat our mistakes, not having learned a single thing. Dr. Heideggar …

Did Women Once Rule?

There have been many stories about matriarchal societies but the ones that stand out are the ones that have their origin in myths and folklore about the Amazons. They were said to be the most powerful women in the world and they excluded men from their society; they even went to war against them. And now there is a town in Brazil called Noiva do Cordeiro, which translates to “Bride of the Lamb.” Most of the residents are women between …

Shaming Bullies

I’m not a lover of public shaming but I can understand the feelings of desperation that precede it. Sometimes, no matter what you do, has no effect on your child and he takes out his anger and hostilities on those weaker than he is. In fact, he has become a bully and he thrives on torturing those who are powerless. Shaming a bully can generate immediate results but you take the chance of leaving your child with deep emotional scars …

Arguing by Email

I have often said that technology is ruining relationships and, to a large extent, I still believe that. I still think that when you want to break up with your partner, it should be done in person, not sent as a text message. Same, too, when you want to quit your job and you are in the same geographical location, it should be done in person, not sent as an email or a text message. Of course, it should be …

The Father’s Influence

For as many years as I can remember, society claimed that it was the mother who was the most important person in a child’s development. She was the nurturer, the caregiver, the one who supplied all of her child’s needs. And most of us never questioned that. Now, however, with more stay-at-home dads raising their children, we see that this isn’t really true. I’ve always known that fathers play a very important role in a child’s life. He serves as …

Falling Into the Argument Trap

It might sound strange to hear that most arguments can be avoided, but it’s true. Most people hate confrontation and avoid it at all costs but sometimes it’s absolutely necessary; the trick is knowing when to make a strategic retreat and when to stay and fight to the bitter end. When emotions are running high, it can be very difficult to resolve the problem without playing the blame game and ending up in a shouting match. If it’s a hot …

When Policies Make No Sense

Sometimes it seems as though policies are made by six-year-old children because they make no sense to an adult. Case in point, an employee of a large retail chain was taking his third shift lunch break in the store’s parking lot at 2:30 a.m. when he saw a man physically harassing a woman. When he heard the woman screaming for help and saw the man physically grabbing and pushing her into the car, he walked toward the couple and asked …

Connie H. Deutsch