It’s been sixteen years since the Monica Lewinsky-Bill Clinton scandal rocked the world, ruthlessly driven by the Internet. At the time, I don’t think anyone was looking at Monica as a person, probably a very frightened person; they were looking at her as a home wrecker and career wrecker of the most powerful man in the world. As we have seen in recent years, there are now websites set up just for the purpose of married men and women who …
A number of years ago, I heard the term “starter wife.” The definition was “The woman you meet and marry while at university or in training who helps put you through school, has your children, and runs your home and contributes financially while your career is being established, and then when you have made it career-wise, you ditch her for a younger, fresher version who coos over you and worships you.” While the terminology was newer, the concept certainly wasn’t. …
Have you ever lived with someone outside of marriage? In America, there has always been a stigma attached to children born out of wedlock, whereas in Europe, it has always been an accepted practice. We seem to place so much value on the institution of marriage but we don’t look too closely at what happens to a couple between “I do” and “I don’t.” Women used to think they were settled for life if they could get married and start …
There are so many reasons why people stay in marriages much longer than they should. Of course, the leading one is that no matter how unhappy they are, they stay because of the children. If they took a closer look at their children, they would see how the unhappy marriage of their parents was causing their children to become dysfunctional in their own lives. Fear of going it alone causes many people to stay in unhappy marriages and it usually …
Fifty years ago, people had one marriage, one job, fewer outside interests, died young by today’s standards, and you rarely heard about infidelity. Times have changed. Nowadays, we have psychologists and life coaches who specialize in counseling couples who have had, or who are currently having, extramarital affairs. Not only do we hear more about it, but we seem to be more accepting of it. In bygone years, men were the ones who had the affairs; today, women are having …
I came across an open letter to the wife of her boyfriend by a woman, whose motive escapes me. She starts out by saying she isn’t sorry for what she has done and then goes on to show how she deliberately entered into an affair to hurt his wife. She bragged about kissing him on the stoop of his house while his wife’s birthday was being celebrated in their backyard. She detailed how she deliberately kept her boyfriend from going …
Has there ever been a time in the history of humankind that a man or woman who was single, past a certain age, wasn’t told by his or her elders that she was being too picky? It’s more than married people thinking that everyone should be married; it’s almost as if everyone is thinking there must be something wrong with you if you can’t find a spouse. And, it’s more than just finding someone you like, it’s finding someone who …
We’re all familiar with prenuptial agreements but now there is a new concept, a term limit marriage contract which is a premarital agreement based on the number of years you want to stay married. Through the years, we’ve all heard jokes about couples having the option of renewing their marriage license every year, but nobody took it seriously. Now, however, a lot of people are talking about it very seriously, but with a different twist. The new concept that has …
I don’t pay any attention to televangelists and can’t tell you what any of them have to say. However, I just read an article about one of the popular ones and what he had to say floored me. “Responding to a question from a viewer, he said that married men ‘have a tendency to wander’ and it is the spurned wife’s job to focus on the positive and make sure the home is so enticing, he doesn’t want to stray. …
When you’re young, you have romantic dreams of eyes meeting across a crowded room and knowing right away that this is the soul mate of your dreams. You see yourself walking toward your destiny as the two of you meet in the middle of the room. At this point, you should be hearing a drum roll in your head to signify this important meeting. I think most people start out looking for that Grand Passion, that overwhelming chemistry that tells …