Tag Archives: intelligence

Nothing to Talk About

It doesn’t matter how long you know someone or if you’ve just met that person, sometimes you just don’t know what to talk about. Extroverts have it easier than introverts, but it can still be difficult if one of them is bored or boring, interested or grasping at straws to find something interesting to say. My friend once told me about a date he had with someone he had just met and we discovered that she was one of my …

Studies Show We’re Getting Dumber

Research suggests human intelligence has declined and that people are getting dumber. A new study shows that while technology may be getting smarter, Westerners lost 14 I.Q. points on average since the Victorian Era. They point to a number of reasons, one of them being that women of high intelligence tend to have fewer children than do women of lower intelligence. They say, “This negative association between I.Q. and fertility has been demonstrated time and again in research over the …

Smart or Nice, a Life Choice

I once asked a young man if he would rather be smart or nice. I wasn’t asking him if he would rather be seen as smart or nice; I was asking him if he would rather be smart or nice. It was interesting to see him wrestle with this question. I specifically asked him because of his niceness factor and because of his intelligence. Perhaps one of the reasons I was so interested in his response is because I have …

Do You Know How to Read?

Let me start out by saying I don’t like emoticons and I don’t use them. My rationale is that I don’t see authors using them in the books I read because they credit the reader with being intelligent enough to read a passage and know whether the author was being sarcastic, humorous, sorrowful, apologetic, angry, pleased, rude, cavalier, or a whole host of other emotional responses. To this day, I have refused to memorize what those silly things mean because …

Leveling the Playing Field

It seems that every decade that goes by, women are getting closer to leveling the playing field. But is that really true? When I look at the strides women have made over the centuries, it does seem that women have come very far, but then I look at how far they still have to go to achieve the same things that men seem to accomplish without having to jump through the same hoops that women do, and it seems as …

Smart People, Dumb Decisions

I may not be the smartest person on the planet, but I’m not the dumbest, either . . . EXCEPT . . . when I make dumb decisions. It’s at those times that I question my intelligence. We all make mistakes. That’s a given. So why do we think that we have to make great decisions every single time? It’s not even realistic because, as humans, we’re not perfect and, therefore, we will make mistakes. Not just from time to …

Are You a Man or a Woman?

In Shakespeare’s time, women were not allowed to write or act for the public and all of his female parts were played by teenaged boys with high voices. It’s hard to imagine the complex characters of the women in Shakespeare’s plays being portrayed by children who had not experienced love, rejection, betrayal, murder, guilt, or any of the other myriad emotions that the women in his plays felt and acted upon. And here we are in the 21st century, and …

Getting the Right Partner

Another century has passed and we’re still sabotaging ourselves when it comes to relationships. You would think that we would have learned our lesson by now but we haven’t. I’m talking about very smart women who are also career-oriented and aggressive by nature, and I’m talking about men who feel threatened by them. I keep seeing these very capable women downplay their intelligence, their earning capacity, and their business acumen in order to find a man who will love them. …

Pornography Scholarships

Many college students who are blessed with a beautiful body and a great mind are paying for their college education with jobs as strippers. They go to school during the day and then they go to their night jobs as a stripper in various dance clubs. These women aren’t airheads. Some are studying law, psychology, political science, and different careers in the science fields. And most of them are straight A students. Tuition has gotten so expensive that students find …

Struggling With Compliments

Most people like compliments but they would rather overhear someone saying something nice about them than to them. It can be easier to handle someone making a nasty remark to you than when they compliment you. Perhaps it’s because we’re more accustomed to falling short in someone’s eyes that we know what to say when someone insults us than knowing what to say when we’re complimented. If a man tells a woman she’s beautiful and she hasn’t heard anyone else …

Connie H. Deutsch