Tag Archives: relationships

A Childhood Prayer

Maybe it’s because of my age. Maybe it’s because of the complexity of my life. Maybe it’s because I’m more God-centered than I was forty or fifty years ago. Maybe it’s because I value the simplicity of old age. But a childhood prayer has kept rumbling around in my mind these last couple of days, not supplanting the prayers I usually say, but reminding me of the ones I said every night when I was a child: Now I lay …

Retirement Isn’t For Me

I’ve always said that I would die with my boots on. I don’t want to ever retire. I want to work until the last breath leaves my body. Even before I knew what I wanted to do when I grew up I knew that I wanted to work all the days of my life. Throughout the years, through the hard times and the good times, I’ve always known the importance of doing something you love. I tell clients to figure …

Affairs of the Heart

Until the Internet came along, discussions of affairs of the heart were few and far between. Since then, they have become one of the most controversial topics of conversation by the young and old alike, married or single, rich or poor. Seemingly intelligent and successful people get on the Internet and they leave their real life relationships and their common sense at the door. They are so involved in their virtual affairs, that they take no heed of the damage …

How to Get and Keep Your Lover

Most of the articles I’ve read about relationships center on how to get a girl to like you, how to get a guy to like you, how to attract a girl or a guy, how to get a girl or guy back. But the one thing that I don’t see often, if at all, is how to keep your guy or gal interested in you for the rest of his or her life. This may sound a little too ambitious …

You Love Him More Than You Love Me

Sibling rivalry is perhaps the most difficult thing for a child to experience and for a parent to handle. No matter how often a parent tries to reassure a child that she loves all her children equally, that’s not necessarily what the child feels. Think of it this way . . . you have several friends and you all hang out together frequently. You may feel more comfortable with one of your friends whom you regard as a kindred spirit. …

From Friend to Enemy in a Heartbeat

How does someone go from liking and respecting someone to disliking him enough to killing him? I might be able to understand it if this were a romantic couple and it was a crime of passion where emotions run so high that you don’t even register what you’re doing, but it’s harder for me to understand it in a friendship where there isn’t an emotional overload of a sexual nature. Sometimes, it’s motivated by jealousy but I can’t even imagine …

Holiday Depression

As a rule, during the holiday season, I used to see people being nicer and more jovial. Maybe not quite jovial, but more mellow. This year, there seems to be a marked decrease in the holiday cheer. Usually during the days leading up to Christmas, people used to be more patient when standing in long lines at the store. This year, there is more of an attitude of resignation. In the past, people used to talk to each other while …

After the Breakup

Can a couple go from a romantic, passionate relationship to a nonsexual friendship after the breakup? Some can, and some can’t. It usually depends on the level of emotional involvement and how much time has elapsed after the breakup. Although most couples will tell you that their love and emotional involvement were very deep, that may not be completely accurate. It may be that their emotions were more attached to their sex life, than to the relationship itself. When sex …

I’m Sorry

I once heard someone say that he would rather cut off his right arm than say he’s sorry. It made a profound impression on me, and not in a good way. From that point on, it became a mark of good character to hear someone admit that he was wrong about something and say he was sorry. A person who has to be right about everything and who can’t say he’s sorry, is someone who has a boatload of insecurities …

Rebound Relationships

I used to tell clients not to rush into a new relationship immediately after ending an old relationship. My thoughts were that people need time to heal and to figure out what went wrong. I’ve always thought that it takes time to understand the dynamics of the one you’ve just left so that you don’t make the same mistakes the next time. Over the years, I have seen the positive and negative effects of rebound relationships and they are heavily …

Connie H. Deutsch