Horace Greeley, editor of the New York Tribune and a political reformer in the 1800s, favored westward expansion and encouraged Civil War veterans to take advantage of the Homestead Act and colonize the public lands.
On July 13, 1865, he wrote in his editorial, “Washington is not a place to live in. The rents are high, the food is bad, the dust is disgusting and the morals are deplorable. Go West, young man, go West and grow up with the country.”
Men flocked to the west but soon discovered that the ratio of men to women was severely unbalanced. It soon became the norm for men from Western frontier lands to put ads in newspapers from well-developed areas in the East advertising for mail order brides.
All this was at a time when people got to know each other through hand-written letters. Women traveled great distances to marry men they didn’t know and to leave behind the life they knew.
It is now 150 years later and not much has changed except for the kind of communication that is now available.
Today, American men have the advantage of the Internet to meet their future spouse. They also have telephones and planes to make the process easier, but with so many American women available, why are they looking for brides in other countries?
I asked a man who was reasonably good-looking and had a stable income, but wasn’t wealthy, why he was looking for a Russian bride.
He told me that Russian women are more biddable and they are so desperate to leave Russia and have a good life in America, that he was sure he could find a wife who wouldn’t be too demanding and who would be grateful for finding a husband who could support her.
We obviously weren’t talking to the same kind of people or reading the same kind of articles. From everything I’ve read or heard from people who have experienced mail order spouses, that is so far from the truth.
Russian women want the same kind of lifestyle as American women and once they come to this country and get their visas, they become just as demanding and materialistic as their American counterparts.
So why not trawl the Internet in America and get to know a woman the old-fashioned way, by dating her long enough to find out if she ticks all your boxes and then decide if you want to see her across your breakfast table for the next fifty years?