When Trust Turns to Shame

July 1, 2013

Is there anyone who has not put their trust in someone only to find that it was misplaced?

There have been so many stories of relationships gone awry that they probably account for at least half the books sold worldwide. Just look at the self-help section of any bookstore and you’ll see that the number of books in that category far outnumber any of the other categories.

No matter how well you know a person, or think you know that person, things change. People change. Goals and interests change. Values change. Relationships either go forward or backward; they don’t stay the same.

You can live with and love someone for thirty years and still be blindsided by misplaced trust. Before the advent of computers, people took their revenge out in smaller ways, e.g., going to their family and friends or even taking out ads in the newspaper. Nowadays, a person’s revenge is taken out over the Internet for the whole world to see.

There was a time when women were smarter. They valued the privacy of their love life; they didn’t take racy pictures for their boyfriends. The only pictures their boyfriends received were of them fully dressed.

Nowadays, people share the most intimate details of their life on social networking sites and take nude pictures of each other having sex. Even the women who aren’t photographed having sex, are often photographed nude, in provocative poses.

And then, for whatever reason, the relationship falls apart and they break up. In the midst of a heated argument, the racy photographs are often forgotten until something triggers an unpleasant memory.

When that happens, naked pictures and personal information about their exes are posted on social networking sites and these teary-eyed exes exclaim, “I truuuuusted him. I luuuuved him.”

Many of these women tell of the humiliation they have suffered knowing that their naked bodies are splashed across computer screens around the world, along with personal details of their lives. They feel betrayed and degraded, and it’s at this point that their trust turns to shame.

But, still, when they talk about it in media interviews, they all say the same thing, “I truuuuusted him. I luuuuved him.”

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